Five Questions You Need To Ask Your Child During Snack Time

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Snack time is a great time to have a quick but meaningful conversation with your kids. The girls and I had a fun snack with Smart Candy who is sponsoring this conversation.

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I’ve been doing this for years.

I do my rounds and pick up the girls all from their (different) schools and I always ask “so what did you do today”? The answer is always “nothing”. And then we listen to music. When my oldest started school the head of her school asked me if I had asked her about her day when I picked her up. I said I had and then she started to laugh… she could tell by my expression that I wasn’t happy with the answer. She asked if my daughter told her she did nothing all day. We had a quick conversation about how that was a good thing… and that if she was unhappy she would certainly tell me and that “nothing” was actually “I had a great day”.

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For years I let that go… but I couldn’t get over the fact that they had this other life and I didn’t get to be a part of it or even hear the details.

So I started to offer a special snack at home for after school and I always ask them the same five questions and my world shifted. Gone are the “nothing” responses. I’m now really hearing about their day and we are both benefiting. Sometimes they are processing things that happened and before they just went over it in their heads and now I can help them with whatever they are trying to understand. I can see where they are struggling and excelling. I can be a better mom.

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These are the five questions you need to ask your kids during after school snack time:

  1. Did you have a horrible day? This one needs an explanation of course, I mean why would you ask your kid this right? Well, for me it started as a joke. At drop off I’d tell them I loved them and then wish them a horrible day. We love to joke around and it would make them smile. I’d always get a “No Mom! I’m going to have an awesome day!”. So then I’d ask if they had a horrible day at snack time and I’d get the same response. “No Mom! I had a great day”. Which leads us to question #2.
  2. You had a great day… Why? Now that they are in a silly mood the sharing starts… I normally get to hear at least one good thing about their day.
  3. Who did you sit with at lunch? Now we get into friendships. You can tell a lot by who they are sitting with and why. If they say the usual people all is good… and if they say something different it’s a good lead in to find out why and if there is a problem.
  4. Do you have a lot of homework? Innocent enough right? But again it’s a great way to find out how school is going. If there is a lot of homework, more than usual it can mean they are having to repeat work… or that the class is challenging. Which is a good thing or bad thing depending on the child. This can also help you plan how the evening should go. Maybe you need to skip that family fun time and spend it working together on school work.
  5. Excitement question- This one changes daily. I like to end our chats with something for them to look forward to. We talk about upcoming trips, school events, or family get togethers. I normally start the question with “So, are you excited for XYZ?” This ends it all on a happy note no matter what we discussed earlier.

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One thing that really makes our after school talks something they look forward to is having the right snack.

It has to be something delicious… and good for them. For the past couple days we have been having SMARTCANDY. And by we, I mean all of us. (I’m in LOVE with the Lemon Gummy).

SMARTCANDY A naturally delicious snack filled with good things so you can do smart stuff. Each pack is an excellent source of vitamins A+B+C. No high fructose corn syrup or trans fats.

SMARTCANDY can be found at Target and Walmart… so you can grab some when you are doing your regular shopping. Each pouch has just enough snacks in them for the perfect afternoon pick me up. The girls all loved it! The Little One’s favorite was the yogurt covered… and Middle Daughter loved the mixed berry gummy!

We enjoyed them during our after school chat, and also on the go.

We had a jam packed weekend and I just grabbed a couple bags for later when we went for a hike in the hills. They are the perfect size to stick in your purse for the kids or even your back pocket. The girls are always asking for gummies as a snack and I’m so happy we discovered SMARTCANDY. They are definitely something we will be buying more of in the future.

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What is your favorite after school snack?


Heather Reese
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Heather Delaney Reese is the storyteller and photographer behind the lifestyle and family travel blog, It's a Lovely Life®! For the past decade, she has vacationed over 150 days a year with her family. She is a vegan, and loves being by the water, spending time with her children, husband, 2 Shih Tzus and Cat.


  • I ask my kids all those questions, but over dinner while we are all sitting at the dinner table.

  • I normally ask my girls how their day was right when they walk in the door and then I pray that they had a good day or I might have to pay for it.

  • I don’t know about snack time, but we have always had the majority of meaningful conversations at the dinner table. I guess you can eat a snack anywhere, but at my house I want my food at my table.

    • We don’t do snack time, but was always talk at the dinner table. It is about the only time my 18 year son will just sit and talk.

  • Those are great questions to ask. My son was little he always wanted cheese, grapes or blueberries for a snack. About the only time I can get my son to talk is over dinner.

  • It’s so important to take that time to connect with your kids. I remember my chats with my mom after school. They were great times.

  • These are definitely great ways to get your kids to open up. It’s always so great to feel included in their lives outside the home.

  • My kids love snack time. Usually they pick an apple (yay!) but sometimes they want a little more sugar (boo). These smartcandys looks good!

  • I’ve always made it a point to chat with my son after he gets home from school. It’s a great way to stay in the loop, and it keeps them open to communication when they hit the angsty teenage years.

  • Great questions! I probably annoy my kiddos with all my questions but I too couldn’t get over the “nothings” I got when asking about their day or “it was fine!”

  • I used to have that same answer “Nothing”from my daughter but then I told her that I would have to talk to her teacher about it. She got scared and now I don’t even have to ask, they tell me how their day been.

  • My son always responded with “nothing” too. These questions will definitely help provide a little more conversation fodder during snack time.

  • These are really great questions to ask!! I bet you have great conversations with your daughters now!

  • Thank you for the wonderful conversation starters. I make my daughter a snack every day after school so these will be used!

  • I love that you use snack time to reconnect after a day at school. These sound like great snacks, and something to try.

  • These are some great questions. I was tired of the nothing answer so I now ask – what was your favorite part of the day? I’m going to ask some of these too.

  • We always engage our children in conversation during dinner. It is so important to keep the lines of communication open and share with one another. SMARTCANDY looks super tasty!

  • It’s always a good idea to connect over food. My nephew is sometimes hard to get talking about his day, but when he is distracted by food it is easier!

  • Thank you for your tips! They’re great! This is something I’ll look back on when I have kids my own…

  • These are great questions. We usually ask similar ones around the dinner table. My kids love to snack on yogurt or popcorn in the afternoon.

  • Well, I would love to try those out, and I learned ages ago I had to ask more specific questions, not just “how was you day” but “what did you do today?” Took me until my oldest, who’s 24, was 12 to figure that out 🙂

  • I think I would love the mixed berry gummy too, LOL! It is so important to sit and talk with your kids every day and find out what they are really thinking.

  • Great conversational topics for getting in touch with our kids. I love snack time because it’s a great time to connect and reflect on their day.

  • I would always come home from school hungry, gym was always after lunch for me as I got older and I had a long commute home, I would run straight to the fridge, and my mom would use it as a time to connect with me also and ask me about my day! 🙂

  • This does work like a charm. I changed up my questions recently and am amazed at how easy it was to switch from a ‘regular stuff’ answer to a babbling, happy to answer-answer. 🙂

  • My daughter always has popcorn when she gets home from school. And when my s/o’s boys are here for the weekend, we always ask them how their week at school was.

  • I have never heard of Smart Candy before. It looks good. I like to snack on fresh fruit and veggies. Trail mix is great to.

  • I love that you added asking the kids who they ate with at lunch. My kids were bullied in school for a long time and ate by themselves. I am happy to say that is no longer the case. These snacks looks delicious.

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