10 Ways To Avoid Online Drama

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not my circus not my monkeys


It’s really easy for a disagreement to go crazy and get out of hand online because people often say things behind the comfort of their computer that they would never say face to face.

Here are 10 ways to avoid online drama.

1.  Stay away from other peoples petty disagreements. It’s like watching a car wreck. You know nothing good is going to come of it. Move your mouse away from it 

2. Remove yourself from the lives of toxic people. This seems really easy but for some reason it’s one if the hardest steps to take. Remember you can control who you encounter online. Remove toxic people and be done with it.

3. Know who your real friends are. Big one here. Know who it’s safe to go to for support and to vent. Unless you are 100% sure that someone is your friend, don’t share too much to, and around  them.

4. Know who the gossipers are and avoid them. Back to basics here. Remember the person in high school that couldn’t keep a secret if their life depended on it. Yes them. Well there is a whole new level of secret keeping online. Know who will share all your secrets and avoid them.

5. Keep secrets that you are told. Goes with number 4. Don’t create drama. Keep secrets that you are told.

6. Be clear in what you are saying. Try to avoid misunderstandings and be clear in what you are saying.

7. Know the company you are in. If there are always moments of drama then it’s time to find a new community.

8. Don’t create your own drama. Think before you type. Don’t start or encourage drama.

9. Don’t believe everything you hear. Drama always starts somewhere. Don’t let it be started with you over something that is not true.

10. Always take the high road. This might be the best way to avoid drama. If someone tries to start it with you be the bigger person. Don’t let yourself be a victim of their drama.


Heather Reese
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Heather Delaney Reese is the storyteller and photographer behind the lifestyle and family travel blog, It's a Lovely Life®! For the past decade, she has vacationed over 150 days a year with her family. She is a vegan, and loves being by the water, spending time with her children, husband, 2 Shih Tzus and Cat.


  • Great post. It’s so easy to get drawn into other people’s drama, whether it’s friends or family. You really have to be vigilant about only getting involved in things that affect you personally, and you have to keep toxicity out of your life. I’ve had to distance myself from people in the past, because they just brought me down. Sometimes you have to do what you have to do.

  • Great tips… I get so irritated with people airing their problems out on FB – especially constantly the poor me posts… come on…

  • Now that I am older, it’s a lot easier to appreciate these tips. I wish that someone would have advised me a long time ago to stay away from toxic people that bring your down. Well, better late than never to know this, right?!

  • Those are great tips! I think as much as having discussions is a great thing, online it is far too volatile and people can’t read between the lines or see facial expressions or hear tone. So the past few years I have forced myself to totally disengage from those “controversy” posts I see all over the place.

  • I am actually in the process of weaning a gossper/trouble maker from my life. I don’t need that kind of drama, you know?

  • I follow all these guidelines and I know certain people who could really benefit from these tips (aka the cause of most of the drama.) Drama is not what social media is for.

  • hahahah I had to laugh at this … My Boss came to my office a few weeks ago and he had the same saying “Not my Monkey .. Not my Circus” and we all cracked up laughing and making jokes and now when we have him drive us crazy with files we hold up that sign (made ourself of and everyone will bust out laughing… I know your post wasn’t really about that first saying..BUT I had to share my little story…;-) BUT you sure had some great tips.. I hate online drama…

  • Funny because my pastor talked about this in church. I need to be more vigilant about removing Debbie downers from my life. I need people who walk a similar path in my life. 🙂

  • Great tips. I’m glad I stay out of the drama. I also keep my circle very small.

  • It’s funny because I never hear about the drama until it’s over. I think I kinda float out here alone and just keep to myself. That helps me stay out of trouble!

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